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| Your ex can either be a memory or a shadow that follow you around, if a memory, it will fade with time, but if a shadow, it will be a baggage you will drag around all your life |
Tade and
Jane had been friend for a few months before they decided to take their
friendship to the next level since both of them were single and they seemed to
have this amazing connection, the type you see in movies.
Everyone
was happy for them and as weeks rolled into months, they had this assurance
that they were indeed made for each other. This assurance made them go public
with their relationship, before a year, everyone knew they were an item, what
else but to expect wedding bell to ring?
But like
every other relationships, theirs was not without some ups and downs, after a
while, things began to go south and they began to wonder if they were really
meant for each other in the first place. An incidence occurred at some point,
the proverbial last straw that broke the camel’s back, it was a situation they
could not surmount, so they decided to path ways.
Considering
the challenges they had been having in their relationships, it was first a
relief they had broken up, but then after a few days, they started missing each
other, they both thought it wise to give the relationship another chance
against better judgment.
Tade
knew it was an exercise in futility, but the heart wants what the heart wants,
they started talking again, but later went apart, each making efforts to move
on with other people.
To say
Tade took the worst hit will be an understatement. No woman seemed to be good
enough for him, none was able to break the hold Jane had on him. After some
months apart, Tade began to appreciate the good qualities Jane had, forgetting
all her faults, most of which made him to want to end the relationship in the
past.
It has
been some months they separated and just a call from Jane or a deep thought would
bring the past to the present, making Tade a prisoner of his own past. What should
he do?
My
Comments:
Here is
where Tade is missing it:
There is
a saying that the person who is absent have no fault and does no wrong, Jane is
not perfect, as a matter of fact, Jane cannot make Tade a happy man, Tade knows
this deep down but he is a slave to his own emotion. It is actually very
possible to have great and awesome feelings for someone and still be unhappy
with the person; that is the reason when it comes to choosing who to spend the
rest of your life with, feelings should not be your motivator or driver.
As a
matter of fact, I will advise someone wishing to go back to an ex to have a
deep rethink, you know why? Most times, we forget the faults in people when we
are missing them, we hold on to the idea/idol of them we have created in our
mind, an idea that is most of the time far from reality, the reality of who
they really her. Ask yourself this question, if you guys were really so
compatible, why did you end the relationship in the first place? Before going
back to an ex, ask yourself, what are the issues that led to the break up/ and
am I willing to do something about them? Think deep about this and you will
understand why you need to let that relationship go once and for all.
This is definately not the end of this topic, watch out for the next part.
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