Don't mind my playfulness, but have you asked yourself 'why do I want a relationship right now?' Yea, we all must want relationship at some points in our precious life, but the timing is also important, why now? What is special about this moment that may want to drive you into a relationship? Here are some of the wrong reasons we start a relationship:
1. All my friends are in a relationship.
2. Am not getting younger.
3. Am almost through or already through with school so I need a relationship ASAP.
4. My parents won't let me rest (talk about African Mum syndrome, you don't want to fall victim lolx).
5. I Am lonely, i often get bored so I need someone to spice things up (if you are bored with your own company, what is the assurance you won't bore the other person?)
6. There are some things I need to improve on, need another person to help me do that ( are you kidding? If you can't handle your own issue, how will you handle theirs with yours?).
The list is endless, but the truth is, when we go into a relationship because of some of those things up there, there will be a foundational error, and if the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
But there is this one I excluded from the list which I think is huge, sounds odd to me kind of, but we do it anyway.
7. Getting into a relationship with someone you are not convinced is good for you? Just keeping them by the side while you hunt for someone better? Mehn! How many people are guilty? Let me see your hands...yea, raise it well. If you ask me, I will say that is so damn unfair. Why snif a food you do not really feel like eating? The ugly part is, most of the time, it bounce right back on you, ask me how. Yorubas do say a blacksmith shouldn't dip 2 iron into a fire at once, why? Concentration! You may not be so serious with that person, but cause you are holding on to him/her, when 'your right' person comes, you may not recognise him, to add to this, the one you are keeping as plan B may be stolen by another person right under your nose.
That's not all, let's say you are able to hold on to that person despite your hunting spree, the question is, if that person is not good enough for total attention and concentration, if you can't love the person with all your heart when you were dating, what gives you the assurance you will be able to totally love or completely submit to that person for the rest of your glorious life? (Talk about one of the major causes of marital unfaithfulness).
What happens if you hold on to that person that is not really right for you for years, only to meet that person that fits you so perfectly and you can't seemingly do without? What will you do? Break up? Complications right? Talking about Karma...karma can be a bitch you will agree, pays back with your own coin.
When it comes to relationship, patience is a virtue. You will need it before getting into a relationship and when you are in a relationship.
So why not just wait there, hang on a little...to avoid story that touches.
Don't let people make you do what you know is not right for you, at the end, you will be the one with the damaged life.
The second part of this article will discourse some things to consider before going into a relationship. Sure you don't want to miss it.
Till next time...don't forget to drop your comments. You are deeply loved! *winks*
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