2. Lack of purpose: that the saying where a purpose is not defined, abuse is inevitable is fast becoming a cliche doesn't make it a lie, the saying is so true, it is like a law that must be followed. Have you ever asked yourself why you want a relationship or why you are in that relationship? can remember that some time ago there was this question on my mind about what happiness and fulfilment really is. Take a look at this, your parents birthed you, you are expected to go to school, till you grow up, get a BSc, HND, NCE, or whatever qualification, then go for the one year mandatory service, get a job, get married, have kids, raise them, work all your life to be comfortable, and you are never comfortable cause you always want more, then your kids too grow up, have kids, and the cycle goes on like that, now the question in my heart was, is that what life is all about? No one seems to be concerned about your happiness or even your personal fulfilment, what matters is that you go through this phases, and my bad, I didn't mention the last phase, death, go through this phases, die, and struggle continues for those coming after you.
Now, not that what the society demands of us is bad, they are good thoughts, but then, they can be a snare if we allow it to control us. The first thing to do is not to ask what others want from us, but what we ourselves want from life. Focusing on the inside, the yearnings, the thirst, the needs, then ask what you want from a relationship, knowing what your needs will help in knowing what you want, then the next will be finding who will meet this need, but mind you, we learn as we grow, this is the part we need God, we may not know all we need but our heavenly Father knows that which we need and He is able to help us if we will depend on Him.
Many are already in a relationship before they begin to find out what they want, remember what I shared in the first part of this series, you may have what you want, but you will always long for that which you need and will eventually go for it. Never go into a relationship because your Mates are getting engaged or even getting married, you will most likely make a mistake, thereby wasting the time you ought to spend preparing for a better relationship in a wrong relationship that won't work, that some of your Mates are dead and you are still alive should teach you the importance of differences in timing. Believe me the pressure will be tough, but you need to be determined to get that which you want, except you want to play games, which I believe is totally wrong.
Some relationships are so boring, lacking fun and excitement because those involved are only engaged formally, nothing tangible tying them together other than agreement, the two hope to become one but they are mostly doing solo, do your own while I do mine cause they don't have much in common purpose wise. This is inevitable if you discover you both want totally different thing from live, can two work together except they be agreed?
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